FALLen Leaves

Last year, I also made a blog about autumn in Skåne(but some pictures in the area I lived) But this year,it was totally different. I visited few places that i didn’t visit before and be able to take my bicycle with me chasing some leaves instead of sunset. If you’re a nature lover, you don’t just feel the amazement or the wow feeling about some certain things. You feel like being connected that’s there’s really something that connects you to it. Something surreal that you can almost cry and imagine life would be much more easier. Some people have this thing called “Autumn depression ” when suddenly the surrounding turns grey and all of the sudden the sun will not showed up. But the best thing about autumn is that when the sun comes out and the rays from it strikes to the dying coloured leaves.It gives more life. It adds more colours. It’s gives more hope. And it added some pinch of happiness that we as individuals are longing to. It gives light,a new perspective about life that not every dying leaves are genuinely dying. They’re dying for purpose. And that purpose is to prepare it selves to embrace and be ready for another season.

So now, I’m sharing how Skåne county attributes its autumns beauty to some expat and explorer around the area.

THE PUBLIC CEMETERY IN MALMÖ 🍂

TUROP Forest 🍂

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re I live 👩🏾)

A PUBLIC PARK IN MALMÖ (I’m not really familiar with their designated names but I will not surely be lost there 😆)

I’m sure there still more beautiful places to explore aside from these places I visited to. As they said “Beauty is in the of the beholder ” It depends how you see things in your own naked eyes. That beauty doesn’t exist on its own but created by observers.

It’s not how stormy the day was, how sunny it could be. How a flower bloomed or how the autumn leaves fall. Some people might find it not nice at all. And some may seem find it as a gem. After all, what is important is we try to see things in a way that we like it. If you see things differently and consider it as something special then be it. We need more people in these world who will help other people to see beyond that object, beyond that piece.If you see start seeing things in a beautiful way. Imagine how beautiful the world is. Because there’s always always always a beauty of everything.

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10 things happen meeting a good guy after a toxic relationship 

When you are in a toxic relationship you don’t realize how much the emotional abuse impacts you. Not while you’re in it at least. When you’re in a toxic relationship, everything about it is kind of addicting. It’s the knowing and not knowing what’s going to happen. It’s the hope that’ll it’ll change but there’s also comfort in things that are the same. There’s a comfort in someone knowing you so deeply.

And it takes everything in you to not walk away. And even when you walk away, you find yourself going back so many times because you miss him. You miss the adrenaline rush of high intense emotions. From love to screaming to making up.

But then you meet a good guy. And when that happens that’s when you realize how negatively this past relationship has affected you. And sometimes you even push people away because of it.
You aren’t used to being treated so well, you almost reject it.
1. At first, you expect the worst.

After a toxic relationship, you don’t trust anyone. Even yourself. You wonder how you tolerated such a relationship for so long. And you enter every relationship expecting the worst of someone. For a while, you don’t believe good guys do exist. Because for so long you looked for the wrong qualities and you accepted a lot of these people who didn’t deserve you.

2. And overthink everything.

You think everyone has motives or doesn’t mean what they say. When you’ve caught someone in lies so often it makes you paranoid as fuck. You don’t believe people can be honest or mean what they say. You make crazy assumptions and doubt really good people just because of one person.
Next thing you know you’re explaining to this guy how you got to this conclusion in your head and he’s baffled. Not because you’ve questioned him but that someone has made you this way and all he wants to do is reverse this.

3. You’ll think he’s too good to be true.
Someone treating you this well has got to be too good to be true. You’re expecting the other shoe to drop. You’re expecting him to lose it one day. You’re expecting some abrupt ending without closure. But every day he just proves to you he’s the same person he’s been from the start. He’s given you no reason to question him but it isn’t him you don’t trust it’s everyone in the past.

4. After you push him away.

Someone in the past has led you to believe you don’t deserve the best. So when you get it you reject it. You fear something good because you don’t want to lose it. You don’t want to get hurt again so you try and ruin it first. But what you’ll realize that’s different about this guy is when you run he’ll chase you. When you push him he’ll grab you close and not let you leave.

5. You’re going to expect fights.
You keep waiting for a fight. But instead, everything gets talked out and explained. And there’s this wave of comfort afterward and you realize normal people don’t leave the second something goes wrong.

6. Then you’ll apologize too often.
He’s going to wonder why you apologize so often or what it is you’re saying sorry for. He’ll see the pain in your eyes from someone in the past whose made you question yourself. He’ll see the pain in your heart trying so hard to love again when you’ve only known heartbreak. And he’s going to constantly reassure you everything is okay.
When a good guy loves someone who is broken who has only known toxic relationships, what he does is teach her she didn’t deserve anything she got. He redefines these horrible standards she has and he chooses to be the exception.

7. And question if they are better off without you.

You think they are better off without you but the truth is just as they have made your life better it goes both ways. And I know you’re scared to love again. I know you’re afraid to let anyone that close. But your sensitivity. Your compassion. Your strength and understanding and lack of judgment in everyone is what makes you beautiful.
This new relationship isn’t what you are used to but it’s exactly what you deserve.

8. You overcompensate.
And when you finally get comfortable and accept this relationship you are going to love this person with everything you have in you. But don’t try too hard. Don’t think you have to. In the past, you were taught your best isn’t good enough. So you had to try too hard. You had to compete. You had to prove yourself.
What you should have learned was your best was good enough and it was him that didn’t deserve it.

9. Then you trust him.
There’s going to be a moment where you tell this guy everything that’s happened. A moment you trust him to let him that close. And when you tell him about the past and the people who have hurt you what you’ll find isn’t that’s he’s going to take off. It’s just given him a reason to stay.
I know someone in your past taught you about tough love. They taught you vulnerability is a weakness. You’ve had to be strong for so long and you’ve had to endure a lot of things you didn’t deserve. But all of it has made you more beautiful than you know. And all of it will make the right person appreciate you for overcoming all of it.

And with tears in your eyes even you will be grateful for a toxic relationship that didn’t destroy you but rather made you the strong person you are today.

10. Finally you learn what love really is.

You begin to realize that relationship that used to define your standard of love was so far from the real thing. You learn that love isn’t supposed to hurt you or be demeaning. Love isn’t supposed to break your heart just to build you back up. Love is not anything that comes in the form of jealousy. Whether it’s making you jealous or being jealous of you. The right type of love does not play games with your heart or want to see you in pain.
You realize all of that wasn’t love but control.
You build yourself back up and fearlessly love again, only this time you do it right.

The right type of love heals you and that’s exactly what this guy has done.

10 Things That Happen When You Meet A Good Guy After A Toxic Relationship

Better days are coming 

They said great things take time! 

Surely is 👌🏾 

Have you been in a situation wherein you’re trying to do your best, giving your perfect shot? but still it doesn’t work the way you expected to, the way you want it, the way you figure it out and the way you planned it. It’s quite stressing isn’t it? You feel horrible and self pity about your self , about the situation you are into. That feeling of being helpless and hopeless. 

Because there are just things in life that you can’t force to happen. No matter how eager and determined you are. It takes SOME REAL TIME IN YOUR ON TIME. I mean, I believe everything happens for a REASON. And whatever it is just let it go. Let the time work on it. Don’t force it. You can’t force a flower to bloom on winter time. Can you? You can’t force the snow to pour down on summertime. Make sense! 

They said try and try until you succeed.Well, it needs self control,determination, eagerness, patience and a brave heart. If you really want something you really need to work on it. Nothing comes so easy these days. You really need to work your ass so hard to make it happen. But if things go wrong. Just don’t give up! Better days are coming. And if that will come. I’m sure it will be all yours. YOURS! 
The thought that so many people seem to miss is that happiness doesn’t start with a relationship, a college degree or a job. It starts with your thoughts and what you tell your self everyday. Like EVERYDAY 👌🏾

LIFE is not a competition. We don’t have this deadline to accomplish our works in life. We just have to live and live. 

A sunny morning with the neighbors cat 

So my holiday just started last Thursday but today is the beginning of everything. So, I’m staying in Strängnäs for a week with my family. 

7 deg C and it feels like summer.

Here comes lil crucos trying to amazed me with its beauty early in the morning with some great sunshine. 

It’s not windy like in SKåne (Southern part of Sweden) I woke up quiet early today since my niece was an alarm clock. Kicking me all the way and crawling back and forth. 


I can’t help it! These munchkin is such a cutie ♥️ Well, we never seen each other for three months. She’s definitely missing me a lot (hopefully yes) 😴 KIDS ARE KIDS 💩

We went playing in the garden then here comes our uninvited visitor visiting us. 


The neighbors cat X😻x😽 I think she/he is ready for some tan 😂😁🙄😅 

I think she really loves this cat. And I hope she’ll have one, one day (SOON) Auntie Miessy will be happy too. Well, I prefer a dog. 

Hope you all have a great day with a lot of sunshine ☀️ 

Hugs from us 💕

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Catch me by the sea 🌊 

Spring is on it’s way and I can’t wait for real. Running, walking miles ,  biking , wearing some thin clothes and be free from the winter atmosphere. 

As I lived close to the sea. I have the opportunity to visit the seaside anytime I want. It’s make me feel so relax,calm and I feel very peaceful within. Like standing or sitting on the seashore watching the birds flying over the waves. How the waves hits the rocks . How the blue sky reflects its beauty to the mirror of water. I know, not every human race try to see every details of  how our mother nature reveals. 

Another blue sky appears on the surface

Birds are coming back

Green grass appearing

 Hope is coming and more energy and perhaps more positivity will conquer

And more importantly the sun is up daily 

So walk as far as you can, go for a bike ride wherever you wanna go until your legs get hurt and numb 😅 (YOLO) 😬🙈🙉🙊 

Love the life you live 🌊

At some point in life, 

nature becomes enough for the lonely soul 

 The silence of the sea 

that surrounds you and you can feel it 

 Smell the fresh air from the ocean breeze

The salty air that blew everywhere 

and the magic that whisper in to your ear
Let your soul and spirit fly 

The sky will never be the same ✔️

I will never get tired chasing the most beautiful thing about life! 


I was walking in Malmö City few weeks ago and there’s a guy representing from a certain organization stopped and asked us. “Whats the most significant thing about life?” I answered it without a doubt. Chasing sunset I added and my best friend nod her head as if we have the same thoughts. And we discussed everything and I figured it out. How could those words came out to my mouth that quick as I didn’t expect it. Perhaps , coz I’m really obsessed about sunset 😂😅 Then I came to realized what’s really the most significant thing about life? My thoughts still running every now again thingking what really it is? 


Aside from living and fighting to survive. What’s your daily goal? How far will you give your best? I don’t really have goals like very tremendous goals about life. Perhaps, I’m living my life to the extent that I’m contented of what I have. I’m not really competitive. And I’m thankful that I got that genes attitude from my Dad 😁😅👌🏾 It’s not that I don’t have a dream . I also have dreams but as tiny as the strand of my Asian hair 😅😬 literally  I just want to be happy. Well, everybody wants to be happy MIESSY!🙊🙉🙈 I mean if you would think too much of what’s going on or the future ahead it will destroy every happy moments that you are living NOW. Just let it go, let it go like a wave from the Ocean that hits the seashore. Like the sun rays that’s hits your hair. Like live your life like there’s no tomorrow as they always said. 


No matter how positive we are in life or how we are good in escaping the reality and pretending everything is okay. We couldn’t just run away from the real world. 

But it’s up to you how you’ll be able to fit in and fight. Sometimes, life is just like an Ingress game. hacking (to gain more energy ) deploying resonators (to overcome obstacles) link portals to others (learn to adjust and fit in the society) but that’s how the way it is . 

Yes ,we are under on the same sky particularly but no matter how we are in the same place. Things may vary and situation might not be keep on repeating back. 

You just have to open up yourself to any possibilities that life could offer. 

Coz the sky will never be the same after all 💛 And life is not a competition! BE STILL . 

Spring just started 🌼

One of the exciting feeling after winter feels is spring. 

Flowers are  just started to bloom

green leaves from the trees started to shine

the cold breeze of the wind that blows up to the sky

the sun rays that hits to your grey hair

 and the smiles that everyone keeps from winter is revealed